He said he wanted a strong woman. Then she showed up. This is about the gap between what a man says he wants and what he can actually handle — and the woman who's been making herself smaller long enough to forget what her voice sounds like.

She said something in our session that stopped me.

"I don't even know what the next step is."

She wasn't lost. She had already made the decision. She knew something had to change. She just didn't know where to start.

That's the hardest part. Not the knowing. What to do with what you know.

In this post I share two practical tools for questioning the thought that's been running your relationships — and what to do with your answer.