How the Masculine Man Got Hijacked

I was eight or nine, standing in Vicky's living room, eavesdropping on a conversation I wasn't supposed to hear. My mom and her friend were talking about men. All of them. As far as I could tell, it wasn't good.

That was my first lesson in masculinity. Not a good one.

The masculine man didn't disappear on his own. He got pulled in two directions — one too hard, one too soft — and most men ended up somewhere in the middle, not sure what they were supposed to be.

In this post, I talk about what happened, why so many good men are still sorting instead of showing up, and what it actually looks like when a man steps into who he's capable of being.