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Learnings, teachings, and tips to support you through tough days, relationship challenges, and your journey to authentic self-expression.
Picking Up Sticks.
You see a need and you're already reaching for it, before anyone has asked. It feels like kindness, and sometimes it is. But some of what you're carrying belongs to someone else, and it gets heavier every mile. This one starts on a backpacking trail in the Sierras and looks at the thought behind the yes, and how to tell what's yours to carry from what isn't.
You Think You’re Listening
You already know how her sentence ends before she finishes it. That’s not attentiveness, it’s prediction, and it’s been running in the background of every conversation you’ve ever had. Here’s what’s actually happening in the half-second between hearing and understanding, and the one shift that changes it.
Surrender Isn’t Passive
She wasn’t lost. She knew exactly where they were going. So why couldn’t she stop calling out every turn from a seat that wasn’t hers? It’s such an ordinary moment, but it reveals something most of us get wrong about surrender.